The Root of the Institution. Humans as Decoders of Signs. The Order of the Cosmos. Levels of Certainty. The Wisdom of Luqman.
Concerning Your Parents. Authoritative Responsbilities. The Ruling of Marriage in Islam. The Realm of Laws. Adamic Bonds. Justice in Relationships. Teaching Compassion. On Discipline and Domestic Help. Fulfilling the Rights Upon Her. Connections in the Quran. Revelation and Inspired Knowledge. Take Care of Your Soul.
A Child's Sustenance. A Child's Rights'. Etiquette, Giving Preference and Forgiveness. Relationships of Parity. Do Not Despair! Realities of This World. Guarding Your Blessings. The World Is Six Things.
Etiquette of Intimacy. If you live with a depressed person you can become depressed. You can see this with children. If children pout and do these things you can, just with silly faces and things, get them to break a smile. And once you got them there they know.
Just breaking that infantile desire. The Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, was an absolute master in everything he did. He was [also] a master of breaking that state that people got into. These are normal occurrences. Even for the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him. I would never abandon anything but your name.
If he likes if he dislikes one quality, he should focus on the qualities he likes. The thing about your spouse is that you should look at those qualities that are pleasing. One thing that you can do is you can talk about things that bother about the other person, and then the person tries to work on those things. Especially if they relate to things that are shortcomings Islamically — like anger, short temper, things like that. Those are things that people can overcome. And the best of you are the best of you to your women.
But ignorant men dominate women, for they are shackled by an animal ferocity. They have no kindness, gentleness, or love, since animality dominates their nature. Love and kindness are human attributes. Anger and sensuality belong to the animals. Rumi was taking that to another level of understanding. The reason that they have so much power is because these are people that have conquered their animal soul.
They actually allow the women their shortcomings without demanding change. Whereas he would not relinquish her rights. In other words he would fulfill all of her rights, but he would not demand of her all of his rights. One of the things also is just going the path of least resistance.
Water puts out fire. Fire increases fire. If you look at the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, that was his strategy with people. Umar, Allah be pleased with him, said I once roared at my wife and she answered back. I rebuked her for bandying words with me. By Allah, the wives of the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, dispute with him and even ignore him for a night in a day. The wives of the Prophet, blessings and peace be upon him, do this to the Prophet and he is the best example.
And Umar went and indeed found that from Hafsa. And he left. What you want? The mother of my children. She maintains my house. Cooks my food. People can change. These are two problems that are more predominant in women than in men. It does not apply to everybody. I think part of that is because women tend to move into the moment because of that emotional component that in many women is stronger than men. It can be both in men and women. The idea of saying my husband did this for me or my husband did that for me to other women as a way of boasting.
That should not be done. For the woman generally that is not the case. The ulama differ in that. In the Maliki madhhab, the haqq is that he sleep with her once every four nights. That is derived from the portion of legal entitlement. Now just one thing about this.
If passion overcomes a man he becomes incapable of reasoning and often of controlling the animal urges. It becomes a fortification for your private parts. It is guarding you from doing something which is haram. One of the things about when people come together is that there is an effect in the other realms.
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